They’ve been living together for a couple of years and are making plans for a wedding.

A man's level of confidence governs his life and actions.

A very smart woman needs a man who can see her value and understands how being with her makes him look better.

-----“if you want to find a husband, don’t be too smart.” How, exactly, does a person make themselves "unsmart"?

They were then asked to rate the woman both in terms of warmth and friendliness, and in terms of how desirable they would find her as a long-term romantic partner.

Whether the subject was math or English, the men rated the woman who outperformed them as a long-term romantic partner.

Or he may have difficulty with intimacy or some other issue she could have no way of knowing about. She wanted to know if she had done something to drive him away.

As she went over their conversation in her mind, she realized there was one thing that stood out—though she did not want to believe it.

In those tests, male participants were asked to evaluate their sense of masculinity in the situations in which they had been outsmarted or outperformed in front of a woman who might have been a potential romantic interest.

Park and her colleagues concluded that there may be something about being in physical proximity to someone who is outperforming oneself that decreases a man’s sense of his masculinity.

Everything went smoothly—until they met in person for a cup of coffee.